Trust YOUR process. Mine is just an example.

As we grow older we want to believe that things will make better sense because, well we are older after all and that means wiser…right? Not necessarily.    What we may soon discover after we turn 40 or more so 45 is that life, choices and situations seem to get even more crowded, confusing and cloudy. *please know that I have nothing against those under 40. It’s just well, I’m over 40 and what I’ve come to accept in this second half of living is the first half…was a dry run testing shit out.

Old fixes to problems and challenges don’t work the same;  the rationalizations we assign to work through them don’t make sense anymore.  We could come up with some insane solutions when we were younger however as we get older the consequences of those wild solutions comes back to face us.   Should we be doing intense self work, we may discover the reasons we behaved a particular way stemmed from situations/ideas/thoughts we may have chosen to avoid or superficially fix because we were young and in a hurry.  As we get older, we begin to move at a different pace; becoming more aware of our personal power (it’s depth and reach) and our mortality… often in the same breath. We feel the clocks ticking.

Now what?  We do what we did when we were younger of course. We ask our friends, because that always helped.   We try on their explanations and solutions. They mean well, we do too when we are advising them but…our now older self stands by with hands on hips saying  “that ain’t for us, that ain’t our shit”.  Their solutions don’t fit like they did when we were younger. (but we had to try because that’s been our pattern right? )

We nod and smile accepting the words but when we are alone we may find ourselves judging and responding …that is NOT for me.  LMAO

Do we still try their advice?  Yep. (because we aren’t trying to hear their mouths for having NOT tried their advice LOL)     Then get frustrated because we get this outcome that sucks or doesn’t quite feel right.   We feel as though we are spinning our wheels and not getting anywhere and the world seems to be passing us by.

And the world… Well the world really is going to keep going however does anything that we aren’t ready for really “pass us by?”

If you ain’t ready…you ain’t ready for it.

So I invite us all in this hurried season of year’s end when we are envisioning the future and mapping out new goals; to slow down, surrender AND sit with what is OUR individual story.  As much as a friend or loved one means well, they can only provide their life experiences either direct or indirectly.  Of course no body wants to be responsible for a bad outcome but truth is…it will be YOURS. OWN IT.  You can vision board all you want but if you still are using the same old tools you did when you were in your twenties (unless you still are in your twenties LOL) at age 40+ then you might have a problem manifesting them.

When you slow down don’t get stuck there.  Just reflect a bit.  Things will come up, regrets and opportunities missed. If a memory doesn’t feel good, SULK!!! cry,  then get up and figure out what was off. Feel it, sit with it and then fix it with YOUR process.  Provide those words and fotos you’ve spent time cutting out and gluing on poster boards etc with a clean chance to emerge without the baggage of the past.

Everyone has an opinion, a story and a solution but you are the only one who has the BEST solution for you.

TRUST YOUR PROCESS no matter how scary it feels. OWN who you want to become.