She felt the warm aura of her heart seep deeper than ever into her soul, and seeds long buried stir and rupture into birth. The greatest peace she had ever known bloomed and rivered, leaving her awed in a weep of joy. “so this is love, she said.” “At last I make this home in Me.”  J. John

Where is your safe space?  

When posed with that question where does your mind immediately go?  Is it a physical/geographic location? Is it an imaginary place in your mind? Is it in the presence of someone you are in relations with? Is it with a parental unit or perhaps a family member or sibling?

Or is it…with you?

I can’t always say that I have felt safe. I have been a safe space for others. I am a great and loyal friend, companion and lover; however for myself, I can’t honestly respond with the same confidence.  I can cite instances where I have not been good for me.  You know, dishonest with myself, violent, abusive and unreasonable with me. I have not provided for myself in the best way and as weird as it may sound I did whatever was necessary to not have to deal with me. I was not always able to create a space for me to feel safe with myself and grow.

How is that possible when we are with our self all the time? or are we?  Sure some will say that they have no issue being alone or doing something solo. Yet, it’s more than that.  It’s more than DOing something alone.  Are you a safe space for you?  Are you able to thrive and grow or do you constantly need outside input?

Imagine this,  an spiritual entity comes to you with this glowing orb thingy and ask are you someone they can trust to care for it.  They tell you it has to reside within you and it feeds off of you, literally and figuratively.  It grows or diminishes based on how you provide for it.  Yet there is nothing from the outside that will suffice as a substitute. It can only be nourished and protected by residing within you?

How long would it survive inside of you?

It’s not a negative to have a safe space that doesn’t exist within you. Many of us have best friends or a significant other that have provided a sense of safety in their interactions with us (trust, communication, love, affection, best intentions etc) that give us that feeling of being able to explore ourselves without concern.  Yet we need to feel safe for ourselves.  When there is no one else around (either on purpose or because that’s how you choose to be) do you feel safe with you?

Think of the toddler that is unafraid to explore beyond certain boundaries because the parent(s) have created a safe and loving environment for them to grow.  They have made sure they are well fed, ample affection, communication, etc that the child feels secure. Do you have this in your life?

If not, begin to create it within yourself. This may be the beginning of your self love adventure.  Since folks are always asking “ how do I do this self love thing?”

What do you need to stir those seeds deep within you to begin blooming?

(btw…only you know what you need, no book, class or person can tell you )