When self care becomes so regimented

I am a huge proponent of self care and I’ve learned that one needs almost an arsenal of self care options, well at least I do. I have been told that I require consistent stimulation and with that comes a necessity of something new in my life in order to keep me moving

Talking with others, mostly women, we compare and contrast what works and doesn’t. We talk about the wine, weed, baths, walks, travel, dancing or whatever one’s self care looks like to them. Yet each and every person seemed to mention at some point things stopped working for them.

So did they stop working on did we lose interests in them?

" When self care begins to feel like a GOT TO rather than a GET TO" 

I walked the 10k steps a day to improve my health and to take time away from electronics to spend in nature. I changed my diet to incorporate more live foods to alkaline my body. I implemented mediation and breathing to manage how I start my day. I did all these and more. Other people I know talked about their time management and how they used it to balance out “me time,” with the time they feel obligated to the let the world in and one thing was agreed upon with all of them.

me time was no longer satisfying nor did it feel like time that allowed them to decompress. They were rushing to fit in the gym workouts. The struggle to maintain activities, that once brought relief, began to feel like a chore and the “get to,” became a ” got to.” We won’t even go too deeply into the accountability factor of sharing it on social media and feeling some kinda way about maintaining it in the face of questions, judgement and some times shame and pressure of falling off. All these detract from self care. When no longer feels caring or loving. so what do you do?

No seriously,

What do you do?