There is a process for most everything in living. Steps, phases and stages that one goes through to achieve an outcome.  Yet how do you go about determining where to begin?  What determines the path?  Is it an incident (or accident), a question, perhaps some trauma or intense emotional experience or just an overarching urge to shift?

Personally, I either go into extreme social butterfly mode or go into hibernation.  I’m naturally an introvert so I tend to be solo dolo.  I begin to crave being in nature. Toggling between being near large bodies of water or off in the woods among trees.

If I must be indoors, well it’s in a cozy, semi quiet space. Lately I’ve been walking along the bayou or sitting at the park.  With pen, journal and an instrumental playlist to drown out talking if people are nearby.
Find a spot to sit on either the grass or a park table; I begin to sink into my head and linger until my heart begins to speak.  It takes a while honestly.  All the noise and what the sifu at the buddhist temple calls wandering thoughts  emerge first. Then the heart/spirit begins to speak.    That’s my process

Pause… Listen…

This isn’t something I’m always good at. I want fast answers and they need to be clear. I may run off and ask someone I trust for advice. Thing is there are questions that need to be asked and only my spirit can answer for me. Not yours.  That was my biggest lesson.  Trust myself or learn to trust me. Sure I can ask for suggestions and input but since you are not me and I will never be you, we really can’t know what’s best for one another.

All we can offer are pages from our personal autobiography and hope it’s helpful 

So…Trust your process and own it.  Expect that it will shift and change. What worked this time may not work next time and that’s okay.  Don’t give up.  It’ll take some time to find your groove; when all appears to be in sync.  *Caveat: It may not last long. Growth requires friction and when we get too comfortable and it’s time to move on, the Universe has a way of moving you.  Relationship challenges, financial woes, weight gain/loss, dissatisfaction with careers, children acting up, whatever needs to happen to get your attention.

So what IS your soul asking for?

A stronger support system, healthier dietary choices, consistent exercise, more adventures, successful business opportunities, more listening, more speaking or less… or both. Maybe you are ready for a romantic partner, marriage, solitude, singleness, children, pets or more greenery in your space.

Whatever it is that your soul begins to speak to you…listen.

Take note and map out ways to get it.  This becomes the impetus for your personal process. A roadmap unique to you. Trust it. No matter what others may say, until you are able to see your own reflection and smile with pleasure at what shows back to you, nothing matters.Listen to your soul, hear your needs and develop the process of getting them met.  The Universe will respond to whatever you ask..

It’s ALWAYS listening